Intent Vs Pre-Conditioning

I know how annoyed we feel when someone hurts us or uses foul language at us.I completely understand how we feel like blasting that person into Stone Age.

However, one of my wise cousins acquainted me with a concept of “Intent Vs Pre-Conditioning”. According to this concept, no human being would intentionally think wrong about someone else. This is known as their intent. I would never feel like hurting a person I meet for the first time. No soul would ever do that. The person is hurting you because you have done something either wrong to him/her or based on his /her pre-conditioning. Something wrong must have happened in that person’s personal life that he/she is venting out the frustration and anger on you.

It sounds very logical when you think of it. However, I know how difficult it is to keep all this in mind when a person is throwing abuses at you. However, have we ever thought about the possibility of converting this pre-conditioning into intent?

I know it sounds absurd. Nevertheless, I am sure there must have been instances in our lives wherein we have been successful in making this happen. What we must realize is that when a person hurts us, he/she is never happy about what they have done. Deep inside, they are as much hurt as you. I know it is easy to read something like this but difficult to absorb. However, what we do not understand is that reacting in a negative way in such situations only hurts us. So it is always a “lose-lose” situation.

So the next time someone does wrong to you, take sometime to grasp the situation and react accordingly. I know this concept may not be applicable to each situation. But who knows, even if we are able to convert 10 percent of such situations from pre-conditioning to intent, this world will be a better place.

Cheers!!!